Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Dear Anonymous

Anonymous. You said to me, on the post about my son's grave being robbed:

that's poopy.
however, in all honesty, i don't think it really matters. Caden had your love, that's all he ever needed.
your youngest son is playing in the heavens.

a) I don't give a fuck what you think.
b) How dare you come to the blog of a grieving mother and tell her that it doesnt matter that her beloved child's grave was ROBBED
c) Ohh so he's in heaven and that makes it all okay?

I am so angry right now I could spit. That someone would come here and tell me that I should basically NOT CARE that some fucking asshole STOLE all my baby's wordly goods from his fucking grave. Lets see her (I assume) bury a child, tend to their grave and then have it raped in that way.

I'm sorry to be so abrupt. I'm sure it was well intentioned, but seriously. If you have never grieved...dont come here and tell me how to grieve. In fact...even if you have grieved, don't tell anyone else how to grieve, period.

Hearing that someone had gone grave robbing that day sent me into a fit of screaming and crying the likes of which had not occured since the day after I gave birth to my tiny dead son. Don't you take that away from me. Don't you tell me that my heart was not legitimately broken that day.

Read my blog from the start. Go and read my friends in the stirrup queens blog list.

Educate yourself.

18 comments:

CLC said...

Sorry you were hit by a troll. It's just ignorant, and oh-so-maddening. I hate that they always post under "anonymous" too. It's so cowardly.

G$ said...

So many trolls out lately. KMA, trollanonymous!

Tosha said...

I'm so sorry that someone had the nerve to post such a comment to you. It just shows you what iddoits lurk and post on our blogs.

Aunt Becky said...

It always horrifies me to hear what people think is appropriate to say to someone on their blog. I doubt anon was trying to be as big of an ass as they obviously were being.

I'm sorry, Brooke. It sucks.

Rachel said...

It's shocking what people will say in the name of 'being supportive.' When I lost a baby at 11 weeks, my boyfriend/baby's father had the nerve to say 'it's not like it was really a formed human yet.' I honestly thought I was going to hit him.

I'm so sorry that you had to go through that, and I hope that your post/blog serves to educate people on the topic of infant loss so others don't have to face insensitive remarks.

Mrs. Mother said...

I'm so sorry about that. People who make comments like that should at least leave their names.

Lissa Lane said...

Holy Shit! I'm so sorry this horrible excuse for a human posted such a mean thing on your blog!!

What is really sad is this person probably thinks they were all brave and good yet notice they posted ANONYMOUSLY!! Wow real guts there. Go be horrible to an angel parent and do it anonymously.

sacredandscarred said...

What a mean comment to get. Who does anonymous thing s/he is, telling you what does and doesn't matter?

k@lakly said...

I hate anon comments. I shut them off on my blog. I hate people who think they can make you feel better by spouting off worhtless drivel like 'your baby is playing in heaven'. What a joke.
Sigh.
xxoo

Erica said...

I wish I could just be the "bigger person" here and say that you shouldn't let it bother you that some douchebag troll decided to open their mouth without thinking (even thing possibly?) but I am NOT the bigger person so I say "RAVE ON sista!". It is utter bullshit that anyone who has not had the horrific experience of losing a child, should even bother to try to advise you as to how you "should" feel about something like this. I actually had my daughter creamated for this very reason. I couldn't stand the thought of anything else happening to her because of ignorant, vile pieces of shit like "anonymous".
Anyway, please know that you and your precious angel are in my thoughts and I sincerly hope that karma (or some big man with a stick) gets a hold of whoever dared to dessecrate the grave of a silent angel.

Erica said...

I wish I could just be the "bigger person" here and say that you shouldn't let it bother you that some douchebag troll decided to open their mouth without thinking (even thing possibly?) but I am NOT the bigger person so I say "RAVE ON sista!". It is utter bullshit that anyone who has not had the horrific experience of losing a child, should even bother to try to advise you as to how you "should" feel about something like this. I actually had my daughter creamated for this very reason. I couldn't stand the thought of anything else happening to her because of ignorant, vile pieces of shit like "anonymous".
Anyway, please know that you and your precious angel are in my thoughts and I sincerly hope that karma (or some big man with a stick) gets a hold of whoever dared to dessecrate the grave of a silent angel.

KAS said...

I have not had the experiences you have, but I am STILL pissed to have heard about this (I have not had internet for some time and have only today gotten to catch up on your blog; I was otherwise a constant reader but a lurker). Not only that some idiot, probably some smartass teenager who doesn't understand what pain is, has gone out of their way to hurt someone who has done NOTHING to them. Those things belonged to Caden, it's stealing, and I hope those bastards just happen to come across your blog and have the damn good sense (obviously it'd be a first for them) to turn themselves in for what they have done to not only your son and your family, but to the other children and their families whose graves they have desecrated.
I could not call them bastards enough times to be satisfied.
Much love.

KAS said...

btw, also pissed about the anon commentary.
Got off on a rant and forgot to mention that I'm ticked about that, too. XD

People suck sometimes. >:x

Amy said...

I can't believe the nerve of some or well lack there of. If they had nerve, they would have left a name!

I'm so sorry, Brooke, no one deserves to be crapped on this way!

I'm thinking of you and Caden, today and everyday.

Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah said...

That is totally messed up. I understand she probably said it to make you feel better, but still...

It does matter.

Meilan said...

Aww paige,
Im so sorry. Those stupid asses had no right to say anything at all. The point is that what was taken was brought for Caden out of love, period! Screw those jerks. Whoever took his things will pay in the end. It's all about karma. love & hugs~

jackie said...

im so sorry someone did that :( and then for someone to come along and say that... some people have absolutly no idea.
hugs xxx
jackie

Missing Chaya Eliana said...

This is [formerly known as] Mama_Bear from Bloop.

I can't believe someone actually had the gall to steal things from your son's grave! Do people have NO RESPECT???

That's one of the many reasons we opted for cremation. We can keep her here with us and not have to worry about all those stupid losers out there who have no respect for the dead.

And I can't believe that someone had the audacity to say that to you! Are they void of any brain cells or compassion? YES Caden had all your love, and YES that may be all he ever needed. But what on earth does that have to do with his grave being robbed? That's not the point. It's the principle behind the action. Those items were special items FOR THOSE WHO LOVE HIM. To have someone steal those items is an smaller equivalent of having him taken from you all over again.

I hope that person reads these comments and sees just how stupid they were.

 

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