tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post912052962090246459..comments2023-03-26T00:03:39.644+10:30Comments on Life Without Caden: Time TravellerLittle Miss Hopefulhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08709032854431313032noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-83902258494917251962008-07-29T20:33:00.000+09:302008-07-29T20:33:00.000+09:30Just started to read you over here as well darlin....Just started to read you over here as well darlin..<BR/><BR/>You know...I think we learn to accept what we cant channge ...rather than accept things..maybe that is the key to acceptance.<BR/><BR/>Dont ever feel as tho you need to explain your grief.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-20335479820765112292008-07-27T18:51:00.000+09:302008-07-27T18:51:00.000+09:30I'm sorry you're feeling like this. I hope you fin...I'm sorry you're feeling like this. I hope you find the space to grieve in what ever way you need to for as long as you feel the need. Take care.SassyCupcakeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06093736219562358428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-78632694278166346652008-07-27T06:00:00.000+09:302008-07-27T06:00:00.000+09:30Sending you virtual hugs. No one should expect yo...Sending you virtual hugs. No one should expect you to be over it. Take the time you need. Only you know how much that is.Echloehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00076557769820933518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-79927883841384070902008-07-27T05:47:00.000+09:302008-07-27T05:47:00.000+09:30Thank you so much for sharing so openly about your...Thank you so much for sharing so openly about your beautiful son. I am so sorry for your loss and you deserve to give yourself however long it takes. Be well.<BR/><BR/>ICLWtripmom827https://www.blogger.com/profile/01459046548825685296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-78019637075596450342008-07-27T03:20:00.000+09:302008-07-27T03:20:00.000+09:30Just take one day at a time. You have the right to...Just take one day at a time. You have the right to feel however you do on any given day, even months and years and decades later. I had many, many m/c and lost a twin at 18 weeks in Dec 2006 and I still have really bad days. And that is okay. You are a mom and you miss your child. What can anyone find wrong with that?, and there is no way for you to "get over it" as I have heard. Some days are better than others but the sad thoughts and what ifs can creep back at any time. I know our situations are a little different and I am not trying to say I know how you feel exactly. Just saying I have experienced loss and unfair expectations too. hugs iclwKimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00867733939934906090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-17153696257596903632008-07-26T11:49:00.000+09:302008-07-26T11:49:00.000+09:30There is no time limit for grief. There will alway...There is no time limit for grief. There will always be good days and bad days. I guess what I am trying to say is that its OK to feel however you need to feel.<BR/><BR/><BR/>ICLWDaughter, Wife and Mom!https://www.blogger.com/profile/17232020590357535168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-70210401560354200542008-07-26T06:39:00.000+09:302008-07-26T06:39:00.000+09:30I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing the picture o...I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing the picture of your beautiful son, Caden. My mom lost a son (my brother, Jim) 24 years ago, you never get over it. It's a death of your child with all your hopes, and dreams for the future, Not the Flu! From ILCW and abiding in your loss and love for your child.Martha@A Sense of Humor is Essentialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07129428477996644401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-13494579494602909602008-07-24T22:59:00.000+09:302008-07-24T22:59:00.000+09:30I never understand people thinking you should be o...I never understand people thinking you should be over a loss. I am sorry you don't feel as free to grieve for your son anymore. <BR/><BR/>ICLW.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09804206770898071326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-5216005724321822822008-07-24T15:47:00.000+09:302008-07-24T15:47:00.000+09:30Hi, over from ICLW,I can't imagine what you are go...Hi, over from ICLW,<BR/><BR/>I can't imagine what you are going through. It makes my heart ache to even try. My thoughts are with you. I hope that you take as long as you need to grieve.momofonefornowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09024643244161544858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-80736722118494568542008-07-24T12:45:00.000+09:302008-07-24T12:45:00.000+09:30I can't even begin to know how you're feeling, but...I can't even begin to know how you're feeling, but there are no easy answers to how long the grieving process should take. <BR/><BR/>I wish you only the best and am sending you hugs.<BR/><BR/>*ICLWMarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05874947894564584023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-38535098972547447012008-07-24T07:01:00.000+09:302008-07-24T07:01:00.000+09:30Thank you for sharing this. I have a friend who l...Thank you for sharing this. I have a friend who lost her precious girl at almost the same age as your Camden. She's going through the same feelings you expressed, and dealing with those who expect her to "move on" with her life as well. Your post gives me a bit more insight into what's likely going on in her head right now. <BR/><BR/>I wish you the very best possible from here on out ... there's not much else I can say, is there? <BR/><BR/>(ICLW)Heather J. @ TLC Book Tourshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10474181812740579350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-8994947787614272932008-07-24T00:36:00.000+09:302008-07-24T00:36:00.000+09:30Here from ICLWI strongly believe that grief is ong...Here from ICLW<BR/><BR/>I strongly believe that grief is ongoing that you never stop grieving.<BR/><BR/>*HUGS*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-73792550865251509542008-07-23T12:27:00.000+09:302008-07-23T12:27:00.000+09:30How do ou ever get over something like this? Ther...How do ou ever get over something like this? <BR/><BR/>There is really nothing I can say, just know I am listening.Kristinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15401725929395230941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-6426927706498823032008-07-23T09:05:00.000+09:302008-07-23T09:05:00.000+09:30It's shocking how quickly other people move on fro...It's shocking how quickly other people move on from someone else's sorrow -- and expect those involved to do the same. Troubling on many levels...Pamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-82903836861391082382008-07-23T06:47:00.000+09:302008-07-23T06:47:00.000+09:30wow I never thought that a time like that could be...wow I never thought that a time like that could be freeing, but I guess I could see that connection. I hope people are not expecting you to be over it, who has the right to expect that. People grieve in different ways and in different times. scream if you want too!<BR/><BR/>here from ICLWaliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15026378388609134143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-66045931166990246892008-07-22T17:17:00.000+09:302008-07-22T17:17:00.000+09:30I can relate to those feeling of acting how people...I can relate to those feeling of acting how people expect you to act. You will never ever get over the loss of your baby, I wish the people around you could understand that. <BR/><BR/>(From ICLW)Mrs Woggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05597471152428982909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-91312999409600200782008-07-22T08:28:00.000+09:302008-07-22T08:28:00.000+09:30From the Comment-o-thon:I'm sorry for your loss. ...From the Comment-o-thon:<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry for your loss. Grief definitely has it's own timeframe and does not conform to the fast pace of our lives. Hopefully, you have others around you who understand.Phoebehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07668069274859889749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-75822224162944992162008-07-22T06:15:00.000+09:302008-07-22T06:15:00.000+09:30People have such crappy and unrealistic expectatio...People have such crappy and unrealistic expectations for grieving. I don't have any good advice or anything other than to tell 'em to shove it. If only in your head.Aunt Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146687582842259611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-7702050212441314912008-07-22T05:12:00.000+09:302008-07-22T05:12:00.000+09:30Brooke, just needed to pop on to see Caden's littl...Brooke, just needed to pop on to see Caden's little face and let you know you and Caden are thought of!AlexandrasMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10507654976725678199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-84313514065076351872008-07-22T03:25:00.000+09:302008-07-22T03:25:00.000+09:30Visiting from IComLeavWe....It is so hard for othe...Visiting from IComLeavWe....<BR/><BR/>It is so hard for others to understand our pain because often they have not experienced it. I have never lost a child, but I greive often that I have not yet been blessed with one after years of trying.<BR/><BR/>Take your time, dear. It has been only a short period of time. And ask for help. Do not be afraid to ask for help.<BR/><BR/>You are so very strong, even if you don't feel like it.Hope2morrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00196437847799474686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-50221265650201936472008-07-21T21:19:00.000+09:302008-07-21T21:19:00.000+09:30There really isn't any time frame as to how long o...There really isn't any time frame as to how long one should grieve.<BR/><BR/>I can't imagine the pain that you are going through. It's your own pain and it's very real. (((hugs)))Just Me.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12940399833566474215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-610357774752962442.post-28448316731198172312008-07-21T17:12:00.000+09:302008-07-21T17:12:00.000+09:30It's incredibly hard to grieve and live up to the ...It's incredibly hard to grieve and live up to the expectations of those who think you should move on.<BR/><BR/>People who judge should try walking in your shoes for a day.<BR/>I think it's because they just don't know how hard it can be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com